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When I asked you guys to ask me about my Top Five Anythings, I think it's pretty safe to say I did not expect to be asked about my Top Five Sex Positions. And at first I was like “WHAAAA HOW DO I ANSWER THIS OH WAIT I KNOW.”
These would be the positions I find the sexiest when writing/reading fic. Granted, I do not read or write smut that often (and when I did read smut, most of it was either awful het!smut written by people who don't know the first thing about sex/fucking, or it was fic within slash fandom, particularly male!slash, which tended to be much more well-written but not as focused on position variation), so I can't speak to how legitimately sexy these positions are when they show up in fic, but there is something about them that pushes my personal buttons, and this list is an attempt to explain why.
A short disclaimer: I contemplated f-locking this entry due to the mature nature of the content, but ultimately decided against it. I'm not going into explicit detail here, and I'm also operating under the assumption that most of the folks who frequent this journal are mature enough (at least mentally) to handle someone talking about sex. Considering the content in some of my fic (none of which is locked), this entry is hardly anything to get worked up over. However, if you aren't comfortable with the topic of sex (which is totally fine!), you're free to skip over this if it makes you uncomfortable. I trust most of you can use your best judgment here.
Top Five Sex Positions.
And that's the whole thing about writing sex into a story—what you do with the characters and what you have them do with each other still has meaning. Even in a smutty story, even in a PWP! You can still work characterization into a sex scene, you can still say something about the relationship and about their issues, whether there are issues of power or control or trust or all those other things that make relationships complicated and interesting. And that's what makes it hot. That's what makes it sexy.
Also, it helps to be know your limits. That is... don't talk like you know shit when you don't. Because it is painfully obvious when someone is fronting on their knowledge of sex. Just... be aware of what is within your realm of knowledge.
Well, I hope that was educational. Remember: Use this information only for good. Never for evil. And person who asked - WELL I JUST HOPE THAT ANSWERED YOUR QUESTION.
These would be the positions I find the sexiest when writing/reading fic. Granted, I do not read or write smut that often (and when I did read smut, most of it was either awful het!smut written by people who don't know the first thing about sex/fucking, or it was fic within slash fandom, particularly male!slash, which tended to be much more well-written but not as focused on position variation), so I can't speak to how legitimately sexy these positions are when they show up in fic, but there is something about them that pushes my personal buttons, and this list is an attempt to explain why.
A short disclaimer: I contemplated f-locking this entry due to the mature nature of the content, but ultimately decided against it. I'm not going into explicit detail here, and I'm also operating under the assumption that most of the folks who frequent this journal are mature enough (at least mentally) to handle someone talking about sex. Considering the content in some of my fic (none of which is locked), this entry is hardly anything to get worked up over. However, if you aren't comfortable with the topic of sex (which is totally fine!), you're free to skip over this if it makes you uncomfortable. I trust most of you can use your best judgment here.
Top Five Sex Positions.
- Spooning. It's a very “cuddly” position. But kind of hot because, you know, the one person is generally embracing the other person from behind and that gives their hands a lot of “area” to explore, plus being necked from behind is awesome and sexy, ngl. Good for fluff, sweet little moments in bed between two characters (OR MORE, EVEN), and overdosing on sugary sweetness.
- Cowgirl. WOMAN ON TOP, MWAHAHA. (Or, to be non-gender specific, receiver on top.) I cackle, but in all seriousness, what's awesome about this position is the implication of equality between the two people involved, and it's not always just about the guy letting the woman top, but the woman taking the opportunity to be more active during sex.
- Oral. Yeah, it sounds dirty. Whatever. Oral is hot. It's someone willing to get down on their knees to make someone else feel good and I also find it enormously intimate (and yes, sex on the whole is a great act of intimacy to me—but the willingness of someone to get that personal with someone else just ups the ante for me). I also like—in more “intense” depictions of it—how it can render the person receiving (both women AND men) a little helpless and lightheaded and flaily with lust.
- Doggy-style. CRINGE. I swear, this position has the worst name ever. BUT MOVING ON. While in lesser depictions this can be very unsavory (to say the least), on the flip side I think there's a great deal of trust involved. I mean, it's not straight-up kink, but it is just a little kinky, and any kink by its nature involves a HUGE amount of trust between both parties. Plus, hands can get a little more involved. Hand involvement is hot, for the record. Also, something that I neglected to mention for oral but can also mention here—this is a position that easily allows for variation of location. Bedroom sex is good and can be hot, yes, but man, bend a character over a table or a couch or just on the kitchen tile, and DAMN. Again, there's an element of kink to it—not a lot, but just enough to be kind of hot and sexy. (By the way, for all you virgins out there getting ideas in your head—I know you are, don't pretend you're not—DO NOT ATTEMPT THIS POSITION FOR YOUR FIRST TIME. Girls especially. Don't you fucking dare let anyone talk you into it. It will be excruciatingly uncomfortable for the receiver and is a position that needs to be worked up to. The more you know, 'kay?)
- Wall!sex. Pretty much my God damn favorite of all time, as will be evidenced by the amount of time I am about to spend talking about it. If I see this in fic, then ohhhh damn. Like, um, I don't even know how to explain it. Usually the couple engaging in wall!sex are just so hot and huffy that they CAN'T BE BOTHERED to make their way over to the bed, nor can they be bothered to completely strip each other naked—and btw that's another hot thing, sex partially clothed—and that urgency, that need to be fucking RN DAMMIT because these two characters are just THAT HOT for each other really does make it THAT HOT. This also works extremely well for certain characters, because—and that's something that a lot of movies and TV shows don't tell you—wall!sex requires A SHITTON OF ATHLETICISM. Like, it's fucking exhausting. FOR BOTH PARTIES. Like, you both need crazy strong abs, and crazy strong thighs, and while we're on the subject crazy strong calves wouldn't hurt either, and the (for lack of a better term) giver needs to have enough strength to hold the receiver up for an extended amount of time, and even then the receiver has to do some bouncing on their own, and you're both WORKING AGAINST GRAVITY, DID I MENTION. I mean, seriously. There's a lot you can imply about two characters engaging in wall!sex; it's not just an arbitrary position you can fling two people into because it's *SEXY*.
And that's the whole thing about writing sex into a story—what you do with the characters and what you have them do with each other still has meaning. Even in a smutty story, even in a PWP! You can still work characterization into a sex scene, you can still say something about the relationship and about their issues, whether there are issues of power or control or trust or all those other things that make relationships complicated and interesting. And that's what makes it hot. That's what makes it sexy.
Also, it helps to be know your limits. That is... don't talk like you know shit when you don't. Because it is painfully obvious when someone is fronting on their knowledge of sex. Just... be aware of what is within your realm of knowledge.
Well, I hope that was educational. Remember: Use this information only for good. Never for evil. And person who asked - WELL I JUST HOPE THAT ANSWERED YOUR QUESTION.